The simplest definition of coaching
My typical client is a human with a goal. Where does the goal rest? It rests in the human’s mind. Not at the office, not in the boardroom, not in his smartphone, not in his colleagues’ voices. A goal does not exist until it occupies a human’s mind. And then, problems begin. This is the simplest definition of coaching.
Why does this situation need coaching?
Because of one of the following possibilities:
- MISUSE OF OWN MIND: the human might consider his a goal of other(s);
- COMPASS: the human is unclear about the essence of the goal: is it a new way of being? a new way of doing? something to have? something relational? a combination of all these?
- SYSTEMIC VIEW: human’s goal might be linked to his other goals or other humans’ goals;
- SUBJECT-OBJECT: the human is subject of the goal instead of objectifying it; being subject gives him drive and passion, objectifying it gives the human clarity.
- LEVEL OF UNDERSTANDING: the human is too small for the goal; his consciousness needs to “grow up”;
- VALUES: the human doesn’t know himself enough;
- LACK OF CLARITY: the human didn’t define the goal very well;
- CREATIVITY: the human has limited/ bad or no solutions to attain the goal.
My coaching ways
So, sometimes I have to coach the human, sometimes the goal and sometimes both.
Sometimes I have to use:
A. a transpersonal approach (co-discovering/ co-uncovering human’s values and beliefs and his life’s underlying purpose) – #5, #6
B. a systemic approach (how the human/ the goal/ both relates to the VUCA world around) – #1, #3
C. an NLP approach (long-term changes of mindsets – beliefs, heart sets – moods, states and body sets – language, posture, embodiment, to attain the goal) – #2, #7, #8, #4
D. a cross-training or martial arts approach (micro-practices to perpetuate new habits, to train new skills, to instill new attitudes) – #2
E. an integral approach (defining the existing/ desired level of consciousness of the human or/ and of the goal, working with all the types of inner intelligence of the human, checking on all the perspectives – inner universe, actions and behaviors, relationships, the larger society, environment and processes) – #2, #4
I am a sherpa accompanying an Everest climber during an expedition. He might need me when:
- he sets an unclear destination;
- he loses focus from his intention;
- he starts the climb and needs to be in a certain mental/ emotional, physical, relational state;
- he collaborates with other climbers and/ or sherpas;
- he is preoccupied with other aspects in his life;
- he gets lost in case of obstacles and can not detach from the goal in order to have a clearer view;
- he has a goal (summit) bigger (higher) than his possibilities;
- he does not know his possibilities;
- he has limited/ none/ obsolete ways to reach to the summit.
The difference is that I coach before, during and after attaining the goal.